UMUHIMU WA KUWA NA BUDGET


Photo: UMUHIMU WA KUWA NA BUDGET KWA WANAFUNZI WA CHUO MWAKA WA KWANZA Unapoanza maisha ya chuo, sio tu ni mwaka wako wa kwanza katika masomo na maisha mapya ya kukua kwako, bali pia ni mwanzo wa matumizi kuongezeka. Unapo achana na wazazi na kujiunga na chuo, ni lazima uelewe umuhimu wa BUDGET. Anza kwa kujitengenezea budget na kuifuata - ni jambo muhimu sana na itakusaidia hata utakapomaliza masomo na kuanza kazi. Unaweza kuanza chuo na ‘confidence’ kwa kuwa umesha wa ‘impress’ wazazi na jamaa kwa kufaulu vizuri, lakini, tilia maanani kuwa ‘solid habits’ za kukua kwako ni kuishi kwa urefu wa kamba yako. Tuanze leo kuzungumzia umuhim wa budget yetu, hebu tuangalie kwanza tuna kiasi gani cha kutumia kwa siku, kwa wiki au kwa mwezi. - Anza na mkopo au ‘pocket money’ uliyonayo. Kama unapewa kwa semester au kwa mwezi, basi gawanya kwa siku 30 na utapata budget ya matumizi yako kwa siku moja. - Pesa yeyote ya ziada unayopewa na shangazi, mjomba, kaka, nk.. ziweke benki na usizifuje. Unaweza kuziingiza kwenye budget yako au kuzihifadhi kwa ajili ya dharura. Usipende tabia ya kupiga simu home na kuomba pesa bila sababu, maana tabia hii yaweza geuka kuwa ya kudumu mpaka ukubwani. Anza kujenga ‘healthy habits’ bado mapema, ili umalizapo chuo utakuwa tayari kukabiliana na “real world.” Jitahidi kuishi kulingana na budget yako. - Pendekeza wazazi au walezi wakutumie pesa mara moja kwa mwezi na wazideposit kwenye account yako ya benki. Kama wataamua kukutumia pesa za matumizi kwa mkupuo, mfano za miezi mitatu au sita, unapaswa uzigawe katika budget yako vizuri. - Kama utatumiwa pesa kwa njia za mitandao ya simu, hakikisha ‘password’ yako umeitunza salama na hakuna mtu anaijua. Wizi katika pesa za mtandao hutokea kwa wingi usipokuwa makini. - Kama una ajira ya part time huku ukiwa unasoma, ni fursa nzuri kwako kujiwekea akiba na kuacha kutumia pesa bila sababu. Mara kwa mara angalia akiba yako iliyobaki na malengo yako uliyojipangia, kama umepanga kutumia Sh.3,000 kwa siku na ukajikutua umetumia Sh.5,000 basi kesho yake jibane utumie Sh.1,000 tu. - Kama unatakiwa kununua vitabu, bana matumizi kwa kununua 'used text books' na sio mpya. Vifaa vya dorm au hostel hununuliwa mwanzoni, usiache kuziingiza katika budget yako pia kabla hujaanza kutengeneza budget yako ya matumizi kwa siku. Vitu muhimu vya kubudget kama unaishi nje ya chuo ni kama ifuatavyo; - Kodi ya chumba au Hostel kwa mwezi - Matumizi ya kila siku, sabuni, chakula, nk. - Vocha za simu - Photocopy na printing assignments na mahitaji ya darasani - Kwa ajili ya matibabu unapswa ujiwekee akiba kidogo kama huna ‘Bima’ ya afya - Usafiri wa daladala. Bodaboda na bajaji utajikuta unavuka budget yako kama hupendi usafiri wa daladala. Kama una gari lako usisahau petrol, service na insurance. - Usisahau kubudget na pesa za usafiri wa kwenda nyumbani chuo kikishafungwa. - Kama ni wazazi wanakulipia kila kitu, keti nao chini ili mpange budget kwa Pamoja kabla ya kwenda chuo kuanza masomo yako. Angalia kama itakubidi uwe unajipikia mwenyewe au unakula nje kwa mama lishe. Kama kuna canteen ya wanafunzi, dadisi bei ya vyakula, breakfast, lunch na dinner ili ujipange. - Unapo discuss budget yako na wazazi, onyesha kuwa una nia ya kujipanga usikwame katika masomo yako na sio kujilimbikizia pesa. Zingatia kima cha chini cha mfanyakazi na wanawezaje kuyamudu maisha yao kwa mwezi. Hata kama wazazi wako wanao uwezo kifedha, tabia ya kuishi kwa buget ya mwanafunzi itakufunza kuishi katika mazingira halisi ya chuo. Budget yako ilingane na hali halisi ya maisha na sio ku 'over budget' au 'under budget' ukajikuta unakwama. - Unapobakiza akiba kwenye budget yako ndipo unaweza kununua nguo, viatu au kwenda movie au gym. Hivyo vitu sio vya muhimu sana na kuviwekea budget kila mwezi kwa sababu ukumbuke kuwa wewe ni mwanafunzi, ukisha anza kazi utavaa kila nguo unayotamani kuwa nayo. - Vitu kama laptop ni muhimu kwa mazingira ya sasa, lakini isikuumize kichwa sana mpaka ukakosa raha kama huna laptop. Kumbuka maprofesa wote walioko chuo kikuu kwa sasa walisoma bila laptop enzi zao na walifaulu vizuri tu. Hivyo kama kila mtu amebeba laptop kwenye bega lake na wewe huna, usiji ‘stress’, nenda zako Library na utaona upana wa ‘knowledge’ unaokusubiri humo. - Ukiweza kuishi maisha yako ya chuo kwa budget bila kuomba, kufuata mkumbo au kuishiwa, utajikuta maisha yako yamejaa furaha na muda wako mwingi uta ‘focus’ na masomo yako. Ukiishiwa pesa utakosa raha na amani moyoni itapotea, utaanza kutamani mambo yasiyo kuletea neema. Budget, budget, budget and stick to your budget! Tunakutakia siku njema!
KWA WANAFUNZI WA CHUO MWAKA WA KWANZA
Unapoanza maisha ya chuo, sio tu ni mwaka wako wa kwanza katika masomo na maisha mapya ya kukua kwako, bali pia ni mwanzo wa matumizi kuongezeka. Unapo achana na wazazi na kujiunga na chuo, ni lazima uelewe umuhimu wa BUDGET. Anza kwa kujitengenezea budget na kuifuata - ni jambo muhimu sana na itakusaidia hata utakapomaliza masomo na kuanza kazi.

Unaweza kuanza chuo na ‘confidence’ kwa kuwa umesha wa ‘impress’ wazazi na jamaa kwa kufaulu vizuri, lakini, tilia maanani kuwa ‘solid habits’ za kukua kwako ni kuishi kwa urefu wa kamba yako. Tuanze leo kuzungumzia umuhim wa budget yetu, hebu tuangalie kwanza tuna kiasi gani cha kutumia kwa siku, kwa wiki au kwa mwezi.

- Anza na mkopo au ‘pocket money’ uliyonayo. Kama unapewa kwa semester au kwa mwezi, basi gawanya kwa siku 30 na utapata budget ya matumizi yako kwa siku moja.

- Pesa yeyote ya ziada unayopewa na shangazi, mjomba, kaka, nk.. ziweke benki na usizifuje. Unaweza kuziingiza kwenye budget yako au kuzihifadhi kwa ajili ya dharura. Usipende tabia ya kupiga simu home na kuomba pesa bila sababu, maana tabia hii yaweza geuka kuwa ya kudumu mpaka ukubwani. Anza kujenga ‘healthy habits’ bado mapema, ili umalizapo chuo utakuwa tayari kukabiliana na “real world.” Jitahidi kuishi kulingana na budget yako.

- Pendekeza wazazi au walezi wakutumie pesa mara moja kwa mwezi na wazideposit kwenye account yako ya benki. Kama wataamua kukutumia pesa za matumizi kwa mkupuo, mfano za miezi mitatu au sita, unapaswa uzigawe katika budget yako vizuri.

- Kama utatumiwa pesa kwa njia za mitandao ya simu, hakikisha ‘password’ yako umeitunza salama na hakuna mtu anaijua. Wizi katika pesa za mtandao hutokea kwa wingi usipokuwa makini.

- Kama una ajira ya part time huku ukiwa unasoma, ni fursa nzuri kwako kujiwekea akiba na kuacha kutumia pesa bila sababu. Mara kwa mara angalia akiba yako iliyobaki na malengo yako uliyojipangia, kama umepanga kutumia Sh.3,000 kwa siku na ukajikutua umetumia Sh.5,000 basi kesho yake jibane utumie Sh.1,000 tu.

- Kama unatakiwa kununua vitabu, bana matumizi kwa kununua 'used text books' na sio mpya. Vifaa vya dorm au hostel hununuliwa mwanzoni, usiache kuziingiza katika budget yako pia kabla hujaanza kutengeneza budget yako ya matumizi kwa siku.
Vitu muhimu vya kubudget kama unaishi nje ya chuo ni kama ifuatavyo;
- Kodi ya chumba au Hostel kwa mwezi
- Matumizi ya kila siku, sabuni, chakula, nk.
- Vocha za simu
- Photocopy na printing assignments na mahitaji ya darasani
- Kwa ajili ya matibabu unapswa ujiwekee akiba kidogo kama huna ‘Bima’ ya afya
- Usafiri wa daladala. Bodaboda na bajaji utajikuta unavuka budget yako kama hupendi usafiri wa daladala. Kama una gari lako usisahau petrol, service na insurance.
- Usisahau kubudget na pesa za usafiri wa kwenda nyumbani chuo kikishafungwa.

- Kama ni wazazi wanakulipia kila kitu, keti nao chini ili mpange budget kwa Pamoja kabla ya kwenda chuo kuanza masomo yako. Angalia kama itakubidi uwe unajipikia mwenyewe au unakula nje kwa mama lishe. Kama kuna canteen ya wanafunzi, dadisi bei ya vyakula, breakfast, lunch na dinner ili ujipange.

- Unapo discuss budget yako na wazazi, onyesha kuwa una nia ya kujipanga usikwame katika masomo yako na sio kujilimbikizia pesa. Zingatia kima cha chini cha mfanyakazi na wanawezaje kuyamudu maisha yao kwa mwezi. Hata kama wazazi wako wanao uwezo kifedha, tabia ya kuishi kwa buget ya mwanafunzi itakufunza kuishi katika mazingira halisi ya chuo. Budget yako ilingane na hali halisi ya maisha na sio ku 'over budget' au 'under budget' ukajikuta unakwama.

- Unapobakiza akiba kwenye budget yako ndipo unaweza kununua nguo, viatu au kwenda movie au gym. Hivyo vitu sio vya muhimu sana na kuviwekea budget kila mwezi kwa sababu ukumbuke kuwa wewe ni mwanafunzi, ukisha anza kazi utavaa kila nguo unayotamani kuwa nayo.

- Vitu kama laptop ni muhimu kwa mazingira ya sasa, lakini isikuumize kichwa sana mpaka ukakosa raha kama huna laptop. Kumbuka maprofesa wote walioko chuo kikuu kwa sasa walisoma bila laptop enzi zao na walifaulu vizuri tu. Hivyo kama kila mtu amebeba laptop kwenye bega lake na wewe huna, usiji ‘stress’, nenda zako Library na utaona upana wa ‘knowledge’ unaokusubiri humo.

- Ukiweza kuishi maisha yako ya chuo kwa budget bila kuomba, kufuata mkumbo au kuishiwa, utajikuta maisha yako yamejaa furaha na muda wako mwingi uta ‘focus’ na masomo yako. Ukiishiwa pesa utakosa raha na amani moyoni itapotea, utaanza kutamani mambo yasiyo kuletea neema. Budget, budget, budget and stick to your budget! Tunakutakia siku njema!
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MBINU ZA KUJI-THAMINI NA KUJI-AMINI – TIP#3

 
Photo: MBINU ZA KUJI-THAMINI NA KUJI-AMINI – TIP#3/5 Jana tulikupa Tip#2 kwamba kila kijana anapaswa kuelewa umuhimu wa Kujithamini (Self-esteem) na Kujiamini (Confidence) na kuwa mambo haya mawili yanaweza kumjenga na kumbomoa mtu. Ukosefu wa kujithamini na kujiamini ndo mwanzo wa kuporomoka kwa mafanikio yako, tulikudokeza mbinu ya kuanzia ni kujiwekea nafsi yako katika mtazamo wa juu (positive self-talk). Sauti inayosikikia ndani ya kichwa chako ina uwezo wa kukufanya ujithamini kwa hali ya juu katika kila hatua unayochukua kwenye mambo yako. Watu maarufu na wenye mafanikio kimataifa, mfano Oprah, Jay Z, Usain Bolt, Patrick Ngowi na wengine wengi wamekiri kuwa wanayo tabia ya ‘positive self-talk’ kwa muda mrefu sana. Watu wenye mtazamo HASI hawaachi kulalamika hovyo, kila kitu wao hukichukulia negative. Ni wagumu kuji ‘adapt’ na hali halisi, hawana subira na hupenda kuponda kila mtu au kila kitu. Muda wao mwingi hupoteza katika kuwaza mambo yasiyoweza kuwasaidia chochote. Mara nyingi hujiangusha wenyewe kwa kuwa na mtazamo HASI na tabia ya ‘negative self-talk’. 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Hivi vitu vinachangia katika kushusha thamani ya mtu na sio kosa lako. Vinaweza kuwa ni mambo mtu mwingine amekufanyia au jinsi mambo yalivyo katika mazingira unayoishi au uliyokulia. Huna uwezo wa kumbadilisha mtu. Ila unao uwezo mkubwa wa kujilea, kujitunza, kujibembeleza, kujidekeza, kujipenda na kujipongeza mwenyewe na nafsi yako. Kizuri zaidi ni kuwa unayo ‘control’ KUBWA sana katika kucheza na fikra zako, mtazamo wako ndio silaha kubwa sana ya kukujenga, jinsi utakavyo ‘think’, kujisikia na kufanya kwenye maisha yako. Anza leo KUFUTA fikra zote mbaya (hasi) kichwani mwako, jaza positive things na utaanza kuona hali ya maisha yako inavyobadilika. Tembelea ukurasa wetu kesho tukijaaliwa tutazungumzia jinsi utakavyo jikuta kwenye dimbwi la moto kama utashindwa kuachana na ‘negative thoughts’. Amini usiamini, mitizamo HASI na mambo yanayosikika kichwani mwako ni hali inayoweza kukubomoa. Tutakupa mbinu zingine zitakazokusaidia katika kujijengea tabia za kujiamini na kuachana na mawazo HASI ya kujishusha thamani. Tunakutakia siku njema!





Baada ya kukupa Tip#2 kwamba kila kijana anapaswa kuelewa umuhimu wa Kujithamini (Self-esteem) na Kujiamini (Confidence) na kuwa mambo haya mawili yanaweza kumjenga na kumbomoa mtu. Ukosefu wa kujithamini na kujiamini ndo mwanzo wa kuporomoka kwa mafanikio yako, tulikudokeza mbinu ya kuanzia ni kujiwekea nafsi yako katika mtazamo wa juu (positive self-talk).

Sauti inayosikikia ndani ya kichwa chako ina uwezo wa kukufanya ujithamini kwa hali ya juu katika kila hatua unayochukua kwenye mambo yako. Watu maarufu na wenye mafanikio kimataifa, mfano Oprah, Jay Z, Usain Bolt, Patrick Ngowi na wengine wengi wamekiri kuwa wanayo tabia ya ‘positive self-talk’ kwa muda mrefu sana.

Watu wenye mtazamo HASI hawaachi kulalamika hovyo, kila kitu wao hukichukulia negative. Ni wagumu kuji ‘adapt’ na hali halisi, hawana subira na hupenda kuponda kila mtu au kila kitu. Muda wao mwingi hupoteza katika kuwaza mambo yasiyoweza kuwasaidia chochote. Mara nyingi hujiangusha wenyewe kwa kuwa na mtazamo HASI na tabia ya ‘negative self-talk’. Tuangalie mambo yanayoendelea kichwani mwako, kama wewe ni katika kundi la watu wasiojiamini wala kujithamini;

- Una imani kuwa wewe hauko sawa kama mtu wa kawaida

- Unajisikia hovyo, mpweke na stress zimekujaa ndani yako

- Unajiona una mapungufu mengi mfano, mtu akikusifia “umependeza”, badala ya kusema “asante”, huku ukitabasamu, jibu lako huwa “aaah kupendeza nitapendeza mie bwana, nguo yenyewe mtumba na sura yenyewe hii kama…...”

- Unajiona kuwa thamani yako ni ndogo, mfano “mimi sifai”, “mimi mjinga – sina akili”, “kila mara nashindwa au nafeli”.

- Una mtazamo hasi juu yako binafsi na uwezo wako wa kutimiza malengo uliyojipangia, mfano –“sidhani kama nitaweza kufanikiwa hilo….” “Mimi siwezi bwana….” “Aaaah hiyo haiwezekani, haiwezi kufanya kazi”.

- Unapoteza kujiamini kwako na unaona ‘future’ ya mbele hakuna kitakachobadilika

- Una imani ndogo sana kwa vitu vilivyoko maishani mwako

- Una amini kuwa ulimwengu hauwezi kukutimizia mahitaji yako binafsi

- Una acha kujishughulisha katika kuhangaika kutimiza ndoto zako

- Unagundua kuwa huna furaha wala mafanikio kama watu wengine walio fanikiwa

- Unaona watu wengine kuwa ni bora zaidi, wenye nguvu na wana mafanikio kuliko wewe. Unawaacha wakutumie au wakusaidie mambo yako

- Unaumia chinichini, unasononeka au unasikitishwa na hao watu

- Unajiona wa hovyo, au usiye kuwa na shukrani kuwa na mawazo ya hivyo kwa hao watu

- Unajisemesha mwenyewe na kujinyamazisha. Unajiadhibu kwa kushindwa kuwa kama wengine

- Unapojitazama, unajiona kama unatumiwa na wengine ili wajinufaishe mahitaji yao

- Unajijengea kichwani mwako imani ya nguvu zaidi kuwa wewe sio mtu sawa, tena una kasoro

- Unaachana kabisa na swala zima la kujithamini na kila kukicha mambo hayo hapo juu yanajirudia upya tena na tena

Tuangalie sasa hii tabia ya kutokujithamini (negative self-talk) ina anzaje anzaje!

- Kuna baadhi ya matukio yaliyokukuta maishani mwako yanaweza kuwa chanzo cha kukuletea hali ya kutokujithamini (low self-esteem) katika maisha yako.

- Kushushwa thamani mara nyingi na kudhalilishwa – hii inaweza kutokea nyumbani, kazini, shuleni, au popote pale

- Kubeba lawama ya vitu ambavyo hujahusika wala sio kosa lako

- Kukosekana kwa kutimiziwa mahitaji yako ya msingi

- Kudhalilishwa au kuteswa, mfano mtoto kutukanwa sana au kupigwa hovyo

- Kufanyiwa udhalilishaji au mateso ya aina nyingine, mfano kubakwa au kubaguliwa

- Kuwa na "label" iliyogandishwa kwako na watu wengine, mfano mlemavu au kuambiwa una wazimu na akili zako haziko sawa

- Kupata ujumbe wa mara kwa mara kuhusu nini wazazi, walimu, n.k.. wanategemea kutoka kwako – hili linaweza kuwa tatizo zito sana kwa watu ambao mzazi wake ni mlevi

- Vitu vinavyo onyeshwa kwenye TV, Movie na matangazo ya biashara yanayo onyesha ni kitu gani kinachotarajiwa kutoka kwako na unatakiwa uwe vipi, kimaumbilie, kimavazi na kazi nzuri yenye status

Hivi ni baadhi tu ya vitu hatuwezi kuviorodhesha vyote ambavyo vina nguvu kubwa sana katika kukubomoa ‘self-esteem’ yako. Hivi vitu vinachangia katika kushusha thamani ya mtu na sio kosa lako. Vinaweza kuwa ni mambo mtu mwingine amekufanyia au jinsi mambo yalivyo katika mazingira unayoishi au uliyokulia.

Huna uwezo wa kumbadilisha mtu. Ila unao uwezo mkubwa wa kujilea, kujitunza, kujibembeleza, kujidekeza, kujipenda na kujipongeza mwenyewe na nafsi yako. Kizuri zaidi ni kuwa unayo ‘control’ KUBWA sana katika kucheza na fikra zako, mtazamo wako ndio silaha kubwa sana ya kukujenga, jinsi utakavyo ‘think’, kujisikia na kufanya kwenye maisha yako. Anza leo KUFUTA fikra zote mbaya (hasi) kichwani mwako, jaza positive things na utaanza kuona hali ya maisha yako inavyobadilika.

Tembelea ukurasa wetu kesho tukijaaliwa tutazungumzia jinsi utakavyo jikuta kwenye dimbwi la moto kama utashindwa kuachana na ‘negative thoughts’. Amini usiamini, mitizamo HASI na mambo yanayosikika kichwani mwako ni hali inayoweza kukubomoa. Tutakupa mbinu zingine zitakazokusaidia katika kujijengea tabia za kujiamini na kuachana na mawazo HASI ya kujishusha thamani. Tunakutakia siku njema!
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